k.marie

1. Make a damn “To Do” list.

Be reasonable and write down everything you need to accomplish that week. Do not include future things. Just the immediate, necessary things you actually CAN DO. Tape that ish somewhere where it haunts you. Your bathroom mirror, computer screen, child’s forehead, wherever…

2. Listen to Beyonce and watch her videos.

Even if you don’t like her do it anyway. She will be your motivation. This woman rehearsed for hours, promoted a new album, toured for months, sold out shows and DANCED IN HIGH HEELS ALL WHILE PREGNANT and making the damn effort to HIDE THAT SHE WAS PREGNANT!!!! She is the mayor of grind city. She has the keys to grind city. She recently just had a gold statue made of herself and presented it to everyone at the city hall of grind city. She will inspire you to work harder and go the extra mile. Pregnant. Dancing. Heels.

3. Surround yourself with other people that are motivated.

You will lose if you are not surrounded by people that are not attempting to move forward in their lives. You have to associate yourself with people that can teach you, inspire you and correct you. That’s why Antoinette is my best friend!

4. Say good bye to sleep

If you are working at YOUR FULL POTENTIAL, you don’t sleep. 5-7 hours become the norm. Coffee becomes water, concealer becomes necessary, shit still doesn’t seem to get done. You love every minute of it though.

5.Never make the same mistakes twice

If you are truly hustling, you are paying close attention to your journey. You are learning, growing and appreciative of your failures. In the words of John Maxwell, at times it may feel like you are “failing forward”. Nonetheless, you don’t stop. In every experience you are learning, encouraged and wiser.

Celibacy is the New Sexy

While surfing YouTube, I came across an encouraging video featuring two beautiful young women asserting their right to have a loving relationship and taking the necessary steps to make positive changes in their dating lives. What did these women do? They dare to establish boundaries by requiring monogamy before engaging in a sexual relationship.  Their video was very inspiring because I believe many women have lost their power in the current dating environment because they are too quick become intimate with men who have not proven their worthiness.

Nowadays having dating standards is rare.  Many women are so desperate for a relationship that they are willing to receive scraps just to say they “have” someone. Ultimately women lose out because their lack of healthy boundaries and standards ends up attracting unscrupulous men into their lives.  As a result, unhealthy patters of rejection, fear, and hurt begin to emerge.  Eventually these women become so damage that they aren’t capable of having a loving relationships because they have no idea what one looks like.

One of the ways a woman can protect herself from heartbreak and getting used in dating is to consider abstinence. Abstinence is not a bad word despite how much the Right Wing nut jobs have manipulated the concept to promote their political agendas.  Sexual images saturate our culture and encourages people to let loose.  Those sexy images of fun and carelessness never deal with the consequences of casual sex. Our society has glamorize promiscuity to the point where people who don’t engage in such activity are viewed as strange, anal-retentive, or undesirable. Despite the sexual revolution, people are quite immature about sex…

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So….

I am currently undergoing some life changes y’all.

My husband of 3 years (partner for 6/father of my two children) and I have decided to separate. Despite this being the hardest experience of my life (thus far) I am dealing. Yeah, some days are harder than some but overall I keep telling myself this (decision) is ultimately what’s best for all involved. And though at the current time I feel as if my heart has been ripped from my chest, chewed, spit up, and then stomped on

I KNOW all will be good again.

WE (my babies and I) WILL BE ALRIGHT.

It’s funny how strong you can be will you’re given no other choice.

I was recently told that once I find someone who treats me how I deserve to be treated I will get my glow back but here’s the thing, I don’t have any desire to

“find someone”.

My spirit is feeling pretty bruised.

I have decided that I will work on me and focus on being the best mother and person *I* can be.

My boo (missdanifree) threw me a GAP last Saturday and a girl I’ve met only once before told me something that stuck with me. She said as women we give a little of our heart to those that we love. When they leave they still have a bit of our heart with them. We, as women, walk around with missing pieces of our heart. Sometimes we jump right into something new before healing, before “growing” back those missing pieces. It is of the upmost importance that we feel whole within ourselves.

My heart needs work…lots of it.

I adore the M.O.B. (Morals Over Bullshit) campaign and have felt this way for years…well, before getting with my WASband. (lol -got that from a co-worker). As women we have got to keep our standards high! Hell, some of us got to at least start with setting a standard. I have always said that men will only do what you ALLOW them to do! Tired of dealing with bullshit? Don’t put up with bullshit.

Period. Point. Blank.

I am currently practicing abstinence and will continue doing so until 

a.) I get my heart back to together/healed

…and who knows how long that’ll take.

b.) meet someone who is interested and WORTHLY of loving.

Monogamy is not a request,

IT IS A REQUIREMENT.

M.O.B.